5 Common Misconceptions About BDSM That Are Completely Bogus



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Mention BDSM to vanillas and you’ll get different reactions based on what they’ve heard or read but have never experienced. There are many misconceptions about BDSM and the people who enjoy it, so if you’re curious but apprehensive to try BDSM, read on. We will dispel some common BDSM myths right here, right now because it would suck to dismiss anything (especially something you might like) simply out of ignorance or lack of experience. Here are five common BDSM misconceptions that are completely bogus.

It’s All About Pain and Punishment Vanillas just don’t understand.

Society has generally branded BDSM as “deviant”, “misogynistic” and “sadistic”, but this of course is completely inaccurate. Popular culture likes to portray any BDSM lifestyle as a dark and scary world of sexual depravity, which understandably gives this wrong impression to outsiders. BDSM players want to connect with their Dom(me) or sub on a deeper level that sometimes take them outside their comfort zones. Pain and humiliation can play roles in sex games or the lifestyle itself, and while there are some bad eggs out there, the majority of BDSM players are concerned with the safety and well-being of their partners.

Wake Up the Gimp!
 
Just because you’re into BDSM doesn’t mean you have to wear any gear. As made famous in Pulp Fiction, the gimp suit doesn’t quite sum up BDSM. D/s is more about coaxing the best out of your partner and although the gimp suit (see left) is intimidating to many, some BDSM fetishists enjoy incorporating different kinds of gear into their play.

Again, media and pop-culture play a huge role in shaping what most people understand BDSM to be. Not everyone is into dressing up in leather or latex or rubber, but some people do and that’s okay. If you’re into it and your partner is cool with it, then by all means, wake up the gimp!

All Dommes Are Violent, Power-Tripping Sado-Rapists

This is one of the more unfair assumptions about BDSM made by vanillas. Doms are compelled to please their sub partners, and sometimes a sub’s fantasy includes humiliation, abuse and even rape. The perception of Doms being sexually violent tends to be overblown by the vanilla community, who cling to their values of “normal” sex. It’s merely a superiority complex masking their fear of the BDSM community. A good Dom cares about a sub’s needs, and rewards or punishes accordingly.

All Submissives Feel They Are Subhuman

Another odious misconception that is utterly misinformed is that all subs no feelings of self-worth. Nothing could be further from that statement, as there are many successful Type-A extroverts that want to be subs to experience not being in the driver’s seat for once or to just have a different experience that will take them to a level that they otherwise would never try themselves. While it’s true that some subs do like to be humiliated, abused or tortured, a good sub communicates with their Dom. A sub can be vulnerable or meek but still have an active role in D/s play.

You Have to Pay to Play

While it may be true you have to pay if you’re going to a BDSM club or if you want a membership to Mistress World, but BDSM play can be fun and free to do with your partner. You will also probably have to drop some money on a wide variety of fun BDSM accessories and toys. Now that we’ve debunked these silly vanilla myths about BDSM, are you more apt to play? If so, what kind of BDSM kink are you into?

 

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